Adapted from the book Becoming 19 By Siphosenkosi Jedidiah Kadzutu
“Write and Live the story of your dreams ” Tatenda Dongo
Every script has a beginning and every script has an end. The question I have for you is, “Will the audience remember you after you take your last bow and the curtains close forever? Or will people say something about you, and if so what will they say about you?” You need to remember one thing as you are going about your day to day errands. Every step you take and every second you are alive, you are getting closer to the time you will take your last breath. When that time comes, will you have done everything you would have wanted to do or will you look back on your life full of regret? Not the regret of mistakes made but the regret of the things you never tried to do. Sometimes I look back at my high school years and I think of actions I would have taken but I didn’t. Speeches I could have given, activities I could have done and opportunities that I missed due to procrastination and fear. When I reflect on those lost moments I realise that time really is not on my side. There are four different levels to look at when you are writing your life story. These four levels apply in pretty much most aspects of your life whether you realise it or not. It is, therefore, necessary for you to look into these levels as you write your scripts and in simpler terms, as you live your life.
The four levels are:
1) Individual (Self)
2) Relational (Relationships in your life i.e. family, friends and colleagues)
3) Organisational (Your place of work be it an organisation, company etc)
4) Societal (Your community, your church, your city, your country, region and the World.)
When you have a clear picture of what you want your story to be like at an individual level it becomes much easier for you to determine what sort of relationships you will have. Getting this level right will also help you to have great impact at Organisational and Societal levels as well. This just shows you how important it is to know yourself. This level requires you to ask yourself some personal leadership questions:
1) Who am I?
2) Why am I here?
3) Where am I going?
4) How will I get there?
5) What will my legacy be?
For any individual who is serious with their life and beyond, you have to answer these questions and when you have answered these questions you are set for life. You then live by it.
In the words of motivational speaker Jim Rohn,
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. The people who you spend most of your time with shape who you are. This is why it is really important to know who you are or where you want to go in your life. It is important to keep and nurture the relationships that help you grow individually because those individuals will help you as you pursue your destiny.
Just take a moment and think about your five closest friends… Are they challenging you to be better? Are they serious about where you want to go? Do they even know where they are going?
There comes a time in every individual’s life where you have to take time and really think about the people you call friends. Some of them are just dead weight and all they do is drag you and slow you down from achieving your goals, reaching your destiny and making a difference in the world. Shed off the dead weight and keep the ones that will take you further. When I was still in school my grades were always dismal. So one day I was having a chat with my grandfather and he told me, “If you want to be smart, start hanging out with those smarter than you and learn from them so that one day they will call you the smart one in the group”.
Leaving my day to day friends to learn from the smart kids really helped me because my grades went up from below average to above average. Since I had a good heart I just had to go back and help out my old friends. Some responded well to it but others did not. That did not stop me from making good relationships with others.
If you are part of a school, company or a team you are basically part of an organisation of some sort. At this level, your story will only stand out if you make positive contributions to the group. For most people, you just pass through these organisations and the only difference you made was adding your name to the list of people who have been part of that organisation.
You need to ask yourself what it is you want to achieve for the organisation or/and you can look at what positive contribution you can bring to the table. For you to know what you can and need to contribute and how you will do it, you will have to be clear of your individual story. Once you know your individual story then you look at yourself and ask yourself, “With what I have as an individual what can I do that helps this organisation or group?”
There is a saying that goes, “There is no I in team.” In as much as that is true, the two letters in ‘m’ and ‘e’ make up the word me in team which means you as part of the team, need to find a way to contribute as an individual to the team.
At this level, you will be making an impact on a very large scale. Take a look at people like Nelson Mandela who made a difference in the nation of South Africa and the global community at large. It is not always easy to reach that level, however, it is really possible.
When you are clear of where you want to go then you are bound to impact your society in some way. I believe in using my ability to speak and write to help inspire people to change their lives for the better. The more people who make an effort to change for the better then we will have a society changing for the better.
Life is really a script and no one will ever write your script for you. It is your responsibility to make it happen. Don’t be like most people whose only purpose in life is to breathe and complain. Write a beautiful story and like I always say, ‘TAKE ALL AND LEAVE A LEGACY’
Siphosenkosi Jedidiah Kadzutu is a Professional Public Speaker, Host and Sales Personnel. He is also a toastmaster with a level two award in innovative planning. To buy a copy of his book Becoming 19, visit our offices at 37 Victoria Newlands.