Mom’s and Manes

By @KinkyKrownofGlory

“My mother’s love is hidden in my long strands of hair. . . “- Sravani Singampalli

A lot of the things we learn about hair, good or bad are based on a foundation of what our mothers taught us. They are after all usually our first hairdresser while saloons were mostly for special occasions. It is easy to cringe as we remember the harsh combing on our tender heads and the embarrassing hairstyles that were nothing like we wanted. We are quick to judge our mothers for the decisions they made for us without really taking into account the process they went through to get to those decisions or the time they put in to get our fussy little selves presentable.

Most mothers have to learn on the job how to do different styles they never thought of doing, on different types of hair because of course having the same hair type among siblings is not something genetics and children understand. They cannot even rely on skills from their own childhood due to the change in trends and advancement in hair care products. People would have given my mother the side eye if she had used cooking oil and a hot stone to stretch or dinkies to curl our hair when hot combs and tongs were readily available. Somehow though African styles such as threading (mabhanzi) seem to transcend the passage of time.

Do you remember the beaded braids and plaits when all you wanted was to look like the little girls on the relaxer box? Most mothers may have held off on chemicals for many reasons but straight hair was still the mentality we got instilled in us. So for those that were told they were ‘too young’, we got it relaxed the minute we started making decisions for our own hair. As the natural hair movement grows and we start to learn new things about our hair, we are slowly coming back full circle to those old styles.

Tell us what style you loved the most growing up, or for that matter style you hated the most in the comments below. Post a picture on your instagram or Facebook page with #MomsAndManes and tag @runakoconnect.

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