With Dr. Olga Filippa Nel, Clinical Psychologist
George Addair’s quote, “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear” is so applicable during this time of uncertainty and change. Most of us thrive on the familiar, finding the unknown challenging, even frightening, to the point of preferring to remain stagnant rather than grow, out of sheer fear.
Fear is a basic human emotion and, when warranted, it can be a vital resource, as it serves to warn us of danger and to prepare us physically and mentally to accomplish what is necessary for survival. If left unchecked, however, fear can hold us back from unleashing our true potential.
Fear can influence the choices we make and when our decisions are motivated by fear, they are seldom the best ones because fear sees only the downside. It does not allow us to consider the positive and the negative and to come up with a balanced, healthy view, as being in a fearful state means only focusing on the worst that could happen, on failure and pain. It means always holding back.
If this resonates with you, try the following steps. First, acknowledge when you are being ruled by fear by looking at things objectively, rather than emotionally. Write a list of concrete pros and cons. Release the fear by recognising that often it is rooted in a past event or experience that you have not processed. Mindfully focus on the present, not the past. Shift your mindset to a “resourceful state”, one where you feel strong, capable and clear. Then trust your intuition and move forward by making your decisions from a place of empowered freedom.
Live mindfully and blossom!