By Cynthia Chirinda
Whilst many people fear the breaking point because of its life-threatening nature, there is a treasure that lies in this state of affairs. Sometimes, the course of our lives cannot be changed until our situations reach a breaking point. Whilst being proactive is a plausible virtue that enables preventative effectiveness and reduces risks within systems and organisations, life sometimes may call for us to allow the breaking point to be reached. Until we “snap” sometimes our world order may remain the same and we may continue to get the same results in our traditional comfortable environments. Snap in this instance refers to tapping from our reserves beyond the ordinary provision.
The breaking point is generally accepted as being the moment of greatest strain at which someone or something gives way. Too often we fear reaching this point because of the high levels of discomfort and a strong fear of death. The paradox of death is that it is so closely related to the ushering of new life in the same way that whilst a mother’s life is at stake she gives birth to a new life. My own five personal experiences with childbirth will forever remain magical moments where I remember transitioning from one extreme of deep anguish to another extreme of pure bliss and elation at the arrival of a new life through it all.
Human psychology defines the breaking point as, “a moment of stress in which a person breaks down or a situation becomes critical.” It is possible that when we reach our end and surrender to another dimension of engagement, we may very well be on our way to giving a new definition to a new way of doing things. Here are four ways you can discover a treasure at the breaking point:
- Embrace a “No business as usual” perspective
In light of the myriad of crises that the world faces today, in particular, the battle against the COVID-19 outbreak, the rules for success and failure are being rewritten. There is no ‘business as usual’ anymore. This is true in every nation, industry and every market. An applied mindset that cultivates future-conscious thinking and behaviour is required. What legacy will we leave as ancestors to the future generation? Critical and trans-generational thinking on this path can help us as individuals, organizations, and society as a whole to counter our instinct for short-termism, build more hopeful visions of the future, and turn those visions into action.
- Do not be afraid to initiate movement
Very often when situations around us persistently remain stagnant we can be tempted to remain silent observers in the motionless state of affairs and sometimes even dare the still waters to begin to move around us. When the still and stagnant waters around us do not move it may be a sign that we need to generate the requisite movement so that we get a positive ripple effect that spreads far beyond us. On the other extreme, we may even be tempted to step out of the stagnant waters and situations that we find ourselves in to pursue other “seemingly active waters” avoiding being the causative agents of movement. What have you been sitting and watching for too long in your life, just waiting for it to move? Wisdom and discernment are required to help us to establish the reasons why we may be located and positioned in those stagnant waters for that season. Maybe, just maybe the very same is waiting for you to start making moves that will awaken the sleeping giants within and around you. The traction starts with the movements we initiate in the right direction so that the potential of those things around us is stirred to manifest and align with their destiny as we align with our purpose.
- Promote disruptive thinking
The mindsets of the young people today should be seen as a major disruptor beyond the business environment, above digitalisation and rapid technological advancements. We are not just living a time of turbulent change – we are experiencing an era shift in history. The best leaders today are those people who know what to do when nobody knows what to do, and can navigate confidently through uncertainty and paradox. As a collective, we can become great ancestors together through futures thinking, transgenerational empathy, and visions of all people flourishing.
- Find the crisis in every silver lining.
Many philosophers and deep thinkers have observed that every crisis has a silver lining. I believe that there is an opportunity for many of us to design disruptive systems and innovations that will change how the world operates and how we live our lives.
With that in mind, I will leave you here with some quotes to inspire you to not just survive the current crisis but to use it to better your life and increase your chances for future success:
- “Never let a serious crisis go to waste. And what I mean by that it’s an opportunity to do things you think you could not do before.” Rahm Emanuel
- “The most fortunate of us all in our journey through life frequently meet with calamities and misfortunes which greatly afflict us. To fortify our minds against the attacks of these calamities and misfortunes should be one of the principal studies and endeavours of our lives.” Thomas Jefferson
- “Through each crisis in my life, with acceptance and hope, in a single defining moment, I finally gained the courage to do things differently.” Sharon E. Rainey
- “When faced with a radical crisis, when the old way of being in the world, of interacting with each other and with the realm of nature doesn’t work anymore when survival is threatened by seemingly insurmountable problems, an individual life, form or a species -will either die or become extinct or rise above the limitations of its condition through an evolutionary leap.” Eckhart Tolle
- “When written in Chinese, the word crisis is composed of two characters — one represents danger, and the other represents opportunity.” John F. Kennedy
Cynthia Chirinda is an Organisational and Personal Development Consultant, a Life Coach, Author, and Strategist. She recently published a set of books, “You are Not Damaged Goods”,” speaks to matters that position individuals to Transition from Tragedies to Triumph, Reboot, Restart, Blossom and Flourish, to do great exploits beyond their worst experiences. Looking at improving your career, personal effectiveness, communication skills, relationships, focus, faith and happiness? Wholeness Incorporated Coaching offers you strategies you can implement today to review your progress and achieve your goals. E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org. LinkedIn: Cynthia Chirinda. Mobile: 263 717 013 206. Website:www.cynthiac.net.